The other day, I read an article in a Finnish evening paper. It discussed workplace meeting culture—specifically, how video meetings have become more challenging because participants no longer just sit still and listen; many do other things at the same time. The article mentioned younger participants who might spend the better part of a two-hour meeting walking on a treadmill.

The article interviewed participants who considered such behaviour rude. The underlying message was that when participating in a video meeting, you should keep your camera on and conduct yourself in a polite manner while on screen.

I read the article, waiting for it to point out that for neurodivergent participants, sitting still and listening might not be the optimal approach. Many of us need to “stim” in order to concentrate on what is being said. For years, I have questioned the policy of keeping the camera on, especially when there are a large number of participants.

The article never got that far. It didn’t even hint at the possibility that the “young people” causing the disturbance might be neurodivergent individuals who need to move around. No, no one is obligated to disclose their disabilities—or lack thereof—to you; your job is simply to be understanding and tolerant. What I saw in the article was that stubborn, conservative, intolerant attitude that makes professional life so difficult for neurodivergent people.

“Normies” believe their way is best and that no changes are needed. For some strange reason, any behaviour that deviates from the norm is deemed rude—without exception. I have tried many times to explain “stimming” and how it isn’t a voluntary action—that it is a form of regulation I need to avoid further trouble—but that point just doesn’t get through. Yet, the “normies” claim to be understanding, tolerant, and inclusive.